You don't get it. Dearest shuyookh, your intentions are sweet, but you don't get it.
And they let it happen.
But they let it happen.
"She needs to be more patient, all men get angry sometimes."
"She just needs to stop being stubborn and get used to it."
"Divorce is the most hated thing in the sight of Allah."
"Men will handle their own business, we can't get involved."