Similarly, many young men feel that they should have the best of both worlds: maintaining the same type of carefree lifestyle they had before marriage (e.g. spending hours playing videogames with their friends), while experiencing the benefits of married life as well (having someone take care of the home, outlet for physical desires, etc.). Their refusal to recognize that “something’s gotta give” leads to a sense of frustration from their wives, who feel that they have given up a great deal but received nothing in return.
Those who marry young must recognize that both they and their spouse are at only one stage in their lives, and that they will be affected by the many changes that will occur later on. It is necessary to acknowledge both one’s own immaturity, and that of the other individual.